Adoption: From Sadness to Joy

Teresa Weber

I am the foster care licensing worker for Bridget and Glen Martin, and I’d like to share their story with you, because it illustrates the sadness and ultimate hope foster parents sometimes go through.

The couple was licensed in May 2013 as a dual home, which means they are foster parents, but their ultimate goal for becoming foster parents is to adopt. After learning that the goal for almost all of the children in the child welfare system is reunification and what we do to achieve that goal, they decided that, although they were scared of losing a child placed with them, they were committed to giving this a try.

The Martins received placement of a baby needing a dual home in June 2013. The court and initial assessment worker told them they were sure the baby would be adopted, as his biological mom had recently had her parental rights terminated for other children of hers. The Martins fell in love with the baby and very much wanted to adopt him. But the biological dad stepped forward, and the baby was reunified with his father in September of 2013.

The Martins (as well as their extended family) were heartbroken. After saying she felt totally blindsided, Bridget asked me outside of court, “How do you do this every day?” I told her, “I get through this by knowing, if you stick with it, I will be at your adoption one day.”

Many times, this is a make-or-break moment for our families. But instead of giving up, the Martins decided to keep at it. They opened up their home to a wider range of children (who were not identified as dual placements) and quickly received two separate placements. As luck would have it, parental rights recently were terminated for one of those placements, and adoption is scheduled for April. The Martins are continuing placement of the other child as well, and they are open to being his adoptive parents if needed in the future.

Bridget told me losing the first boy was the hardest thing she and her husband ever had to go through. “We both didn’t know how much a heart could hurt, but now our hearts are shining with joy and pure happiness,” she said, as they are approaching their adoption date of the little girl. “Adopting her is a dream we thought we’d never have come true. She’s our everything!”

I am so proud of the Martins for their dedication and understanding of the process we go through. After the heartbreak, they could have easily closed their home. But instead, they recognized the value of the baby being reunified with his father. They loved parenting so much in those three months, they couldn’t possibly give it up. Although it was super scary, they opened their home again.

I am so happy they will be adopting their little girl, and this makes me sure of the fact that everything happens for a reason!

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10 Responses to Adoption: From Sadness to Joy

  1. Jonelle says:

    Yay!! I am very happy for both Bridget and Glen. I’ve seen how much be able to raise a child means to Bridget and she is extremely devoted to being the best mother that she can be. I am glad they have been blessed with beautiful baby Hannah. Congrats
    Bridget and Glen!

  2. dawn smith says:

    i am so proud of my daughter and son-inlaw they are the most dedicated parents to these children i am so honored to be the proud grandma of these beautiful babies

  3. Barbara Reilly says:

    We are a foster home and over the years have been privileged to love and release 82 newborns and infants. We were foster parents for one of the Martin’s placements and were so excited to hear it is now going to adoption. We know the pain of saying goodbye and the joy of new beginnings for many of our sweet little ones. We too are adoptive parents so we are familiar with the ups and downs of the process. Lots of perseverence and prayer was needed throughout the journey. We continue to gladly welcome more little ones. Fostering and loving these little cherubs is near and dear to our hearts as a familiy. We are an oasis for these little ones for a time. And we commit them to our prayers for the rest of their lives.

  4. sarah says:

    So happy to have Hannah in our family….she is so sweet and lovable…Congrats Bree and glen..God bless you all….love Hannah’s grammy

  5. kellie dilleshaw says:

    Love you b doo and glen..aka mama n daddy…thanks for making me a great aunt…love ya baby girl.(H)… love aunt kellie

  6. Alesha Forbes says:

    I am so happy for my sister Bridget and my brother in law Glen they are devoted parents…it’s beautiful to see the way the babies look at them they love Bridget and Glen so much!! It’s wonderful to see the babies happy and thriving. Thank you for making me a auntie!!
    Love aunt Tt

  7. Barbara Reilly says:

    We are so happy for the two of you. We were so blessed by little Hannah while she was with us. We are so thrilled that she will soon be your forever baby and so happy she is cherished and loved. Please keep in touch share some pictures and milestones with us we would sure enjoy seeing her grow. Congratulations, Blessings and Love..

    Have fum making sweet memories with your beautiful little cherub.

    Blessings and prayers,,
    Tom and Barb and family, Foster Family

  8. Leslie smith says:

    Hannah is so adorable and my cousins Bridget and Glen are not only blessed but lucky to finally grow their loving bond together into a family. You two have given those children the world and you can see it in their faces that they know now they are loved by both their mom and dad unconditionally! I’m so happy for you both and glad to have Hannah in out lives! My baby boy will have cousins to play with when he comes! 🙂 I love you Bridget and Glen… You two are amazing!!

  9. Bridget Martin says:

    Thank you to all of my family and friends. Your support means the world to both Glen and I. These children make our world go round….in no way is it easy especially emotionally. We are honored that we get to have Hannah forever and I wish we got to keep each and every one, as they fill our lives with joy and I know we do the same for them in return. I definately don’t know why we didn’t do this sooner…had I know the the amount of joy and love that we would feel, as we are experiencing now, We would have jumped aboard a long time ago.

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